Traits Of Narcissists, Crazy Makers, And Emotional Predators

(NCH) Do you know the tell-tale traits of Narcissists, crazy makers, emotional manipulators, controlling predators, and other unsafe people? Well, now you can! Here is OUR ULTIMATE, BEST, MOST COMPREHENSIVE LIST OF TRAITS OF NARCISSISTS (and other unsafe people like them):


✦    Their sense of superiority places them above others    Must be the center of attention, constantly seeking approval, acknowledgment, kudos, accolades, praise
✦    Act like they are the lead character in all things in life
✦    Dominate conversations because they believe they have the only worthwhile things to say
✦    Want others to give in to their demands, request for favors, and put their needs first
✦    Inflated ego, inflated sense of entitlement, inflated sense of importance, inflated need to be center stage…
✦    Envious of other people’s accomplishments and will steal, lie, or sabotage others to get attention back to them
✦    Envious of other people’s possessions, they will put such ownership down or minimize it to make themselves look nobler
✦    In search of constant approval and praise to reinforce their false grandiose sense of self, they’re “on- stage,” dominating the conversation, often exaggerating their importance
✦    Since the self is so fragile — an ever-crumbling construction of their ego — they use power, money, status, looks, supposed past glories (or supposed future glories) to boost their image
✦    Criticism is seen as baseless attacks or betrayal and countered with cold-shoulder anger or rage or chilly stares or verbal attack.
✦    Can never accept blame. Others are always to blame.
✦    Feels being center of attention is good, right, and proper
✦    Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
✦   They think they are special, God-touched, or privileged
✦    They think they can only be understood by other special or high-status people
✦    Has an unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment
✦    Narcissists believe they are beyond the rules. Laws do not apply to them and remorse is only felt when someone catches and confronts them.

“However they are upset over any inconveniences they suffer as a result of being busted. They believe they have the right to do what ever it takes to get short term gratification without suffering any consequences.” ~Lynne Namka

TYPICAL WAYS OPERATING OR REACTIONS (blaming, drama storms, etc.)

✦    High maintenance because they need your attention, praise, and deference
✦    They fake sweetness, honor, and good intentions, but deprive them of something they want and look out as they reveal their true selves.
✦    Expresses grand, exciting plans, but rarely can make them happen
✦    Will blame others rather than take personal responsibility
✦    Their lack of empathy colors everything they do.
✦    They may say, “How are you?” when you meet, but they are not interested
✦    Their blame-shifting creates defensiveness. Then they belittle the defensiveness: “Why are you so angry?”
✦    Since they shift blame so well & seamlessly, your guilt/insecurity issues stay raw and over-sensitive.
✦    They lend you a hand up, then subtlety cut off at the knees to keep you indebted & coming back.
✦    If you point out an error they made, they go into defensive mode counter any such notion with anger, venting, rage, cold-shoulder, or withdraw
✦    They give you a metaphorical rug & then keep pulling it out from under you
✦    They are blowhards, braggarts, blusterers, brow-beaters, bullies, big-headed, and ultimately bogus.
✦    They can help you gain certain skills/info/connections, but then forever make you feel beholden to them.
✦    They are extremely skilled at making anyone under their influence crave their approval.
✦    They make you feel special & then emotional distance themselves in ways that keep you unsure of yourself.
✦    They use a judgmental “you’re OK”/”you’re not OK” yo-yoing to keep you off-balance & “blameworthy.”
✦    They groom people via manipulation (charm/rage combo) to sell their reality/rationalizations to others.
✦    Virtually all of their ideas or ways of behaving in a given situation are taken from others, people they know and perhaps think of as an authority.
✦    Their sense of self-importance and lack of empathy means that they will often interrupt the conversations of others.
✦    They expect others to do mundane things since they feel too important to do them
✦    Listen for the constant use of “I”, “me,” and “my” when they talk.
✦    They very rarely talk about their inner life, memories, and dreams, for example.
✦    Lie, using subterfuge and deception as tools
✦    Are stuck in one level of maturity where growth is not an option
✦    Only have eyes for “me, myself, and I” instead of “we”
✦    Don’t understand empathy, except to fake it as a tool
✦    “Give to get” by being nice or helpful only to expect reciprocation
✦    Put on the air of “having it all together” and will not readily admit failure or weakness
✦    Jump to defensive mode readily and frequently
✦    May apologize, but it doesn’t mean a real change in behavior
✦    Run from their own problems rather than tackling them
✦    Demand your trust rather than being transparent and earning it
✦    See you as extensions of themselves and resist your freedom
✦    They create stories, euphemisms, sayings, definitions, rules they hold up as Truth. Their world is false.
✦    They must talk about themselves & be in control. They want you to just be an ego-stroking entity for them.
✦    They see personality weaknesses & exploit them as easily as you & I ride a bicycle.
✦    Will rarely listen to or respect your “No”
✦    Takes advantage of others to reach his or her own goals
✦    Appear tough-minded or unemotional
✦    Reacts to criticism with anger, blame-shifting, shaming or humiliating others
✦    Fails to recognize people’s emotions and feelings
✦    Exaggerates achievements, personal history or talents
✦    Are unpredictable in mood and behavior
✦    Becomes aggressive, hostile, verbally vicious, or withdraws when threatened
✦    Can vocalize regret for a short time when found out, but soon rationalizes it away
✦    Appearance is important, so primping or fastidiousness is common
✦    Withdraw or a cold shoulder is used as a tool to make you do what they want
✦    They rationalize everything to make sure they always come out on top
✦    Will steal an idea, quote, lesson plan, piece of wisdom — call it their own
✦    Groom underlings and create organizational or business environments to suit their need for ego stroking

“Crazymakers thrive on drama, and melodrama requires a sense of impending doom. Everything is an emergency, a deadline, a matter of life and death, or something they will get to eventually. Read ‘never’ … Nearly any situation can be cast as melodrama to support a crazymaker’s plot lines …

  • “A crazymaker is someone who makes you crazy by constantly stirring up storms.
  • “‘Normal’ doesn’t serve their need for power.
  • “Everything is always their problem, but nothing is their fault.”

SOURCE: “The Artist’s Way at Work: Riding the Dragon” by Mark Bryan, with Julia Cameron and Catherine Allen


✦    Employment hemorrhage — narcissist drives people away with inconsistent, raging, and arrogant actions.
✦    Tend to be a lot of talk — fantasizing about power, success, and attractiveness
✦    Can suck up to bosses while talking down to those they think inferior
✦    Expect others to go along with them because their plans are better or special
✦    Expect constant praise and attention
✦    When work or plans fail, will blame other
✦    Often steal ideas and sell them as their own
✦    Will take advantage of co-workers
✦    Will be jealous of others success but wear a face of confidence
✦    Plays the “If you don’t like it I’m taking my ball and going home” game
✦    Exaggerates abilities and uses blame-shifting to cover deficits
✦    Can’t understand “There is no ‘I’ in ‘TEAM’.”
✦    Often argumentative, but arguments are convoluted, emotional, irrational

The following tips on narcissistic behavior come from The Winning Teams website:
✦    They feel that the rules at work don’t apply to them.
✦    They will always cheat whenever they think they can get away with it.
✦    If you share the workload with them, expect to do the lion’s share yourself.
✦    They love to delegate work or projects and then interfere by micro-managing things
✦    If things go well, they take the credit; if the work turns out badly, they blame the person they delegated it to.
✦    There tend to be higher levels of stress with people who work with or interact with a narcissist, which in turn increases absenteeism and staff turnover.
✦    They get impatient and restless when the topic of discussion is about someone else, and not about them.


✦    Value religiosity’s rules or business protocol over spiritual growth.
✦    Take pride in their own righteousness and rightness.
✦    Attempt to belittle any version of reality that conflicts with theirs.
✦    Narcissists can’t believe they make mistakes.
✦    Narcissists have an inability to feel or process, or truly understand shame.


✦    Find out your weakness or fears to manipulate later.
✦    They don’t use language as communication. It’s for hiding, deflecting, avoiding, masking, & manipulating.
✦    Their charm is false. Contradict them a few times & you’ll feel their out-of-proportion narcissistic rage.
✦    Their conversations & interactions aren’t meant to enlighten, but to confuse, control, & create drama.
✦    Are a black hole, working to get time, money, or talent from you.
✦    Expect you to lend a listening ear and give votes of approval.
✦    Use emotional withdraw to create guilt and compliance.
✦    Will use the parental or child role to get what they want.
✦    Will betray secrets to feel more powerful.
✦    Can use flattery or sickly-sweet protests of innocence like a stealth weapon.
✦    Use verbal skills to block or deflect being confronted.
✦    Impact our lives negatively despite appearing to have some positive effect.


✦     Their subconscious creates a false ego from which to relate to the world. They are their own avatar!
✦    Subconsciously real relationships don’t exist for them. We’re all just players on the narcissist’s stage.
✦    Their sole subconscious pursuit is to be seen as God’s gift to the world in a certain area or skill set.
✦    Early emotional trauma freezes their worldview at that age, making them immature, impatient, inconsiderate.

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