(House Of Mirrors) According to Law: Criminal harassment, more commonly known as STALKING, is a crime. Generally, it consists of repeated conduct that is carried out over a period of time which causes you to reasonably fear for your safety (mental, emotional, psychological, physical.
Individuals who stalk may possess one or more various psychological conditions, from personality disorders to mental illness. Most individuals who stalk are engaging in obsessional behavior. They have persistent thoughts and ideas concerning the objects of their attention.
According to Dr. Frank Ochberg, Harvard trained MD and trauma expert:
The victim of a narcissist is traumatized. There are biochemical changes in the body and structural changes in the brain. Thought patterns change, memories are lost, the immune system strongly affected, brain cells die, there is chest pain, muscle pain, feelings are intense and emotions are chaotic.
According to malignant narcissists:
“Why the hell should we have to act a certain way?! Hurting and humiliating others makes us feel good. Why can’t you just obey us and let us have our drug?!”
Every malignant narcissist I’ve known is EVIL, and every malignant narcissist I’ve known is a STALKER, and every malignant narcissist I’ve known should have a police record. If it was a different kind of world; I would sue their asses and slap them with the label they are so richly deserving of – CRIMINAL.
SOUL MURDER does not happen overnight: it is an unrelenting pattern of criminal behavior involving the stalking and systematic destruction of the victim’s soul – a person’s essence. In the case of malignant narcissist parents; it’s a lifelong pattern of abuse committed against a child.
Malignant narcissist parents are very patient and very persistent in their quest to gradually insinuate their influence on a child’s thinking so that they may gain control of the child’s life and destroy it. In fact, they will do whatever it takes to create a false bond just to gain entry. Keep that in mind if you have given a malignant narcissist parent the old heave-ho and they are trying to slither their way back into your life – they will do anything or say anything to trick you into believing that there is a bond so that they can access your soul for destruction. Think of them as a Trojan Horse that will intrude and invade your inner life with bad thoughts.
Malignant narcissists sell a piece of their soul with every evil choice they make so by the time they reach adulthood they are soulless creatures – COMPLETELY EMPTY. Since they lack a soul, they want to make sure that others are without one. And, there is no better ‘other’ to target than a child: as the purity of a child’s virtues puts them to shame. Further, the high they get from hurting an innocent child is a hell of a lot more intense than the one they would get from targeting a world-weary adult. This is why malignant narcissists stalk their own children; that and easy access.
Malignant narcissist parents also stalk their children’s souls in order to be human extensions – to live vicariously through them. Either way; the malignant narcissist parent gains in the transaction of the child’s soul. They drain the child (kill life in the child), and leave them hollow (without a self) so that they can fill the child with themselves: be it as a dumping ground for their own toxic waste, or as a vessel to live their narcissistic fantasies through.
A few years ago I read a book by Marie-France Hirigoyen called Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity. I found the book validating. The writer has a very compassionate approach toward the victim of narcissistic abuse/soul murder, and for the most part, does not attempt to get inside the victim’s head – she gives them the respect they deserve. Instead, Hirigoyen focuses on the abuser and looks at what may be going on in their sick minds.
As I read Stalking the Soul, I took point form notes of all the parts that helped me. So, In an effort to treat the soul stalking, soul murdering malignant narcissist as the pestilent, parasitic piece of shit that it is: I’ve decided to fire off an exhaustive summary of Stalking the Soul and weave in some quotes from M. Scott Peck’s, People of The Lie – that way we can invade the malignant narcissist’s headspace, and take a look at what’s going on behind the vacant stare.
Soul Stalking – Soul Murder:
This lack of love in certain families is systematic destruction that batters a child and makes them want to die, it’s not simply an absence of love but organized violence that the child not only endures but internalizes, to the point where he shifts the violence exerted upon him into self-destructive behavior. (Stalking the Soul)
Evil people, refusing to acknowledge their own failures, actually desire to project their evil onto others, it is no wonder that children will misinterpret the process by hating themselves.
If evil people cannot be defined by the illegality of their deeds or magnitude of their sins, then how are we to define them? The answer is by the persistence and consistency of their sins. While usually subtle, their destructiveness is remarkably consistent. (People of The Lie)
Victims become dangerous adversaries when they begin to articulate what they have intuitively understood. The abuser then must SILENCE the victim.
Outright hostility later replaces ill will or malevolence if the victim reacts and tries to rebel. This is the phase of emotional abuse that has been called “psycho-terror.” At this stage, any means or methods will be used, sometimes including psychical violence to destroy the designated victim. (Stalking the Soul)
Instead of destroying others, they should be destroying the sickness in themselves. As life often threatens their self-image of perfection, evil people are often busily engaged in destroying and hating that life. (People of The Lie)
The Malignant Narcissist as Stalker:
- They have not matured and come into their own and they jealously observe those who have. Faced with their own emptiness, they try to destroy the happiness around them.
- Prisoners of their own inflexible defense system, they can’t bear to see freedom in others. Unable to physically let go and enjoy themselves, they attempt to prevent others from natural pleasures.
- They undermine simple relationships because of their inability to love.
- Abusive narcissists need to triumph over and annihilate others in order to feel superior and accept themselves. They must destroy to find affirmation.
- Their critical sense is highly developed, so they spend a lot of time criticizing everyone and everything; this allows them to feel all-powerful.
- Their driving force in envy and their objective is taking over. To envy is to covet and to feel spiteful irritation at the sight of the happiness and the advantages of other people. We are dealing with an abusive mentality based on a perception of what the other possesses and they lack. The envious one is sick to see the other with material or spiritual benefits but he is more anxious to destroy than to acquire them for if they were his, he wouldn’t know what to do with them. Humiliating and disparaging the others suffices to make up the difference.
- What abusers envy most is the other’s life. They want to dampen the vitality and enthusiasm of the people around them. Their deficiencies are shown up by the desires and vitality of the other. This is why abusers often chose as their victim’s people full of energy and love of life. The evil attack others instead of facing their own failures. Spiritual growth requires the acknowledgment of one’s need to grow. If we cannot make that acknowledgment, we have no option except to eradicate the evidence of our imperfection. (People of The Lie)
Malignant Narcissist’s Denial of Responsibility:
It is not their sins per se that characterize evil people; rather it is the subtlety and persistence and consistency of their sins. This is because the central defect of the evil is not the sin but the refusal to acknowledge it. (People of The Lie)
- Because they have no real subjectivity abusers consider themselves not responsible. They are as absent to others as they are to themselves. They’re never there for you. They aren’t even there for themselves. Abusers constantly deny reality, down-to-minute incidents of daily life.
- Stalking and attacking others is a means of avoiding pain, sadness, and depression.
- Because they are not completely autonomous and are dependent on others, they stick close to people and fear separation. They refuse to acknowledge the devouring nature of their “clingy” behavior which could lead to a negative perception of their own image – this explains their abusive conduct toward an overly kind and solicitous person.
- Because they feel impotent, abusers fear the power they imagine others to have. They, therefore, ascribe to them, in an almost delirious and crazy sense, malice that is only a projection of their own malevolence.
- With the hatred projected onto a target (that soon becomes prey), it calms inner tension; this allows the emotional abuser to act pleasantly in the outside world.
- This explains the astonishment, or even denial, of people who learn about the abusive actions of a close relation who had previously only shown his positive aspect.
- The evidence of the victim, seen in this light, hardly seems credible.
So there you have it – a peek inside the headspace of the malignant narcissist. When I read this for the first time I felt mildly vindicated because the information confirmed what I had already intuitively sensed: that the world of the malignant narcissist is incredibly bleak. Though, I would never pity them because they always appear to be doing just fine.
In People of The Lie, Peck touches on this “appearance”.
Who is to say what the evil suffer? It is consistently true that evil does not appear to suffer deeply. Because they cannot admit weakness or imperfection in themselves, they must appear this way. They must appear to themselves to be continually in command. Their narcissism demands it. Yet we know that they are not truly on top of things. Their appearance of competence is just that: an appearance. A pretense. Rather than being in command of themselves, it is their narcissism that is in command, always demanding, whipping them into maintaining the pretense of perfect health and wholeness.
The narcissists I’ve known always have made a show of how productive and busy they think they are. They also like to pathologize everyone around them while claiming to be high functioning. In fact, the sicker the narcissist, the thicker they lay on the pretense of health and wholeness. It’s rather satisfying to know that they are slaves to their narcissism. No wonder they hate life and love in others – life and love equal freedom and they are prisoners of their pathology.
As Peck writes:
While evil people are still to be feared, they are also to be pitied. Forever fleeing the light of self-exposure and the voice of their own conscience, they are the most frightened of human beings. They live their lives in sheer terror. They need not be consigned to any hell; they are already in it.
This is something I try and remember. I have heard the terror and panic in the voice of a malignant narcissist who found out there was a witness to her crimes. I watched as she scrambled to pull off the most elaborate post-abuse cover-up, worthy of a Hitchcockian thriller. She telephoned people she had never even met and spread vicious rumors and lies about her victim in an effort to bury her crimes. Her main concern was NOT the evil deeds she had committed, but what complete strangers might find out about her behavior – for behavior always reflects a person’s true character.
I have seen proof positive that malignant narcissists are“the most frightened of human beings.” They are completely paranoid, not only by what their wisp of conscience may reveal to them about themselves but by what others will think of them. They live in holy terror of their narcissistic image being smashed to smithereens. It’s as if the loss of their false self would kill them, for they don’t have a true self.
The evil is pathologically attached to the status quo of their personalities, which in their narcissism they consciously regard as perfect. I think it is quite possible that the evil may perceive even a small degree of change in their beloved selves as representing total annihilation. In this sense. the threat of criticism may feel to one who is evil synonymous with the threat of extinction. — Ernest Becker, Escape from Evil.
When it comes right down to it; malignant narcissists are the weakest, most cowardly, and most petrified creatures on the face of the earth. Once they know that you’re not intimidated by them, and that you’re on to them, and that they haven’t snuffed out the fight in you, they live in sheer terror of you… and that to me is a little piece of justice because they should be afraid – the victim holds the power of EXPOSING THE TRUTH.
Who’s in control now narcs?!